If you want your relationship to last, you need to establish equality in the bedroom. If you don’t, you might end up bitter and resentful toward your partner. In order to avoid that, you need to make sure you both get the treatment you deserve, so make sure these things are always equal in the bedroom:

An Equal Amount Of Work

Don’t let your partner work so hard in the bedroom they’re unable to breathe. Occasionally give them a break by doing the dirty work yourself. If you make a point to be on top as often as your partner is on top, you’ll both get the chance to relax and enjoy the ride. It’s only fair.

An Equal Amount Of Initiation

If you rely on your partner to initiate sex and never do so yourself, they’ll wonder why you aren’t as interested in them as they are in you. That’s why you need to take it upon yourself to initiate sex every once in a while. You two are going to do the deed anyway, so you might as well be the one to make the first move. It’ll make you feel like a go-getter.

An Equal Amount Of Oral

Oral is always a special treat. It focuses on only one person’s pleasure, which is why it’s the most selfless form of sex. If your partner is nice enough to go down on you, then you should return the favor. You don’t have to do so immediately in an eye for an eye situation, but you should make sure you generally give them oral about as often as they give you oral. Spread the love.

An Equal Amount Of Nudity 

It’s just plain awkward when one person has all of their clothing removed, but the other still has on their shirt and socks. Unless you’re having a quickie, there’s no reason for you to keep your clothing on. Take it all off, especially if your partner already has. If you don’t, then it’s just going to feel strange.

An Equal Amount Of Orgasms

Women don’t always climax from sex, even though men commonly do. So if your partner hasn’t finished, but you’re no longer in the mood for penetration, do something else in order to get them off. Feel free to use your tongue or your hands. Just make sure they get to orgasm as often as you do.

An Equal Amount Of Fantasies Fulfilled

You can’t expect your partner to blindly agree to your wildest fantasies if you won’t do the same for them. Be open with your partner about your dirty desires and come to an agreement about which ones you’ll fulfill. Try to keep things equal by completing one of your fantasies, and then one of your partner’s. Alternate.

An Equal Amount Of Compliments

Your partner deserves to know how gorgeous they are. That’s why you should tell them how amazing they look as often as possible. If they return the favor by paying you just as many genuine compliments, then your love should stay strong.


Do you and your partner always keep things equal in the bedroom? Share your tips for equality in the bedroom.

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Holly Riordan
Holly Riordan
Holly is an aspiring sci-fi writer who currently writes lifestyle articles for All Women Stalk and News Cult. She's a fan of comedy movies, ridiculous puns, and is the owner of a pup named Ferris (last name Bueller).