Broken hearts take time to heal, but that doesn’t mean you can’t help the process along. Rebounding can make you forget all about your ex and remind you that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. However, you need to be careful that you don’t lead anyone on or accidentally make your broken heart ache even more. If you’ve recently gotten dumped, here are some lifesaving tips for rebounding after a breakup:
You’ve already lost your boyfriend. You don’t want to add any of your friends to the list. That’s why you have to look outside of your friend group for a rebound. It’s best to find someone who you barely know, so that you won’t have to worry about the aftermath. If you settle for a friend’s brother or a neighbor, you’ll be stuck seeing them even after you’re through using them, so try to find a perfect stranger.
Save all the good guys for when your heart is healed and you’re ready to love again. While you’re rebounding, you don’t want to find someone whose personality you adore, because things might end up getting messy. This is the time when you’re allowed, and even encouraged, to be shallow. So find a hottie and don’t talk about your emotions with him. Don’t even tell him your name if you don’t have to do so.
Since rebounding is all about sex, you should always return favors. Whatever a man does to you, you should be willing to do back to him. It’s all about equality. Even though men love sex, they don’t love being used, so make sure he gets what he deserves.
No matter how badly you want to have meaningless sex, you shouldn’t sleep with a random dude you just met without knowing if he has an STD or not. One drunken night could lead to a lifetime of warts. That’s why you should ask whatever man you sleep with to get tested, and use a condom just in case.
Being physically attracted to a new man doesn’t mean you’re emotionally ready to have sex with him. If your breakup is still fresh, you might want to wait a while to sleep around. Before you make any moves, be honest with yourself: Are you going to burst into tears in the middle of sex? Are you going to feel worse about yourself afterwards? If the answer is yes, wait to strip down.
It’s okay if one of the reasons you’re rebounding is to make your ex jealous. However, you can’t bluntly tell him that you’ve slept with someone else. If you do, then it’ll only make you seem vengeful and childish. He’ll probably hear about what you’ve done through the grape vine, so don’t become obsessed with being the one to spill the details to them.
Rebounding is all about having fun. That’s why you shouldn’t worry about what you look like naked or what your lover is thinking. Even if you humiliate yourself I front of him, you’ll never see him again, so what’s the point in fretting? Just enjoy the moment.
What are your best tips for getting over a relationship?