Although many like to say it’s an evil of modern society, porn is not nearly as uncommon as people would like to believe. According to a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, 66 percent of American men and 41 percent of women watch porn at least once a month. If so many people are doing it, it can’t be that bad, right?

Well, it can be…

While this study showed that the majority of us (over 53 percent) watch a little bit of smut, it can cause damage to intimate relationships. It was determined that in some people, watching certain kinds of porn can lead to less satisfying sex and pushing sexual limits with their partners.

Objectification of women

Much of mainstream porn shows no emotional or intellectual connection between the partners. It’s not about romance. It’s not about passion. It’s about sex and getting off. And typically it’s about the man getting off, while little attention is paid to the female’s orgasm.

Unrealistic expectations of sex

Another issue with the porn industry is it sets unrealistic expectations for what sex is like. It rarely pays attention to foreplay or concerns such as lubricants and safe sex. It has men fucking for hours with rock hard dicks and women screaming and clawing at the sheets while they have squirting orgasms. And can sex be like this in real life? Absolutely, but that’s the exception, not the rule.

Unrealistic expectations for women

Porn is a business built on visuals. Therefore it uses women with great bodies and pretty faces who are always hot and horny. They’re ready to go at the drop of a hat, don’t ever have to reach for the KY, and can deep throat like they’ve been sticking whole bananas down their throats since they’ve been 12. Some women are intimidated by this and feel that they can’t compete and it makes them insecure and uncomfortable during sex.

But don’t give up on it…

Although there’s a lot of porn out there with these negative aspects, there’s a lot that doesn’t have them. There is porn that shows loving couples having intimate sex. They’re real people with real bodies and real responses. If you’re interested in finding porn that doesn’t hurt your relationship, but can still get you off, consider some of these alternatives:

Lady Cheeky: A website that calls itself “Smut for Smarties,” it features images and clips focused on porn that men and women can find arousing without feeling shameful.

Frolic Me: An erotic movie site, Frolic Me also includes erotic stories. The movies are specifically made for women and couples, and have a range of themes from romantic to kinky.

Sssh.com: A porn site for women by women, this site focuses on things that women enjoy and find arousing. It’s tasteful and as classy as porn can get.

Arts Erotica: A porn site devoted to couples and romance, it focus on passion and connection, as well as hot, steamy sex. While some of the videos are soft core, others are not.

Nubile Films: Nubile Films makes porn movies focused on sensuality. With a variety of films including masturbation, girl on girl, and hardcore; it offers something for everyone.

Bright Desire: A site dedicated to “smart porn,” Bright Desires gives its viewers a celebration of sex that engages the mind. All videos are real couples, with real passion and real bodies.

And, if you’re still not satisfied, you can check out our previous post of 5 feminist porn sites that will rock your world.

 


What do you think about porn and its impact on relationships? Does it hurt or help? Do you have a favorite, woman-friendly site you like to visit? We want to know so share it in the comments.


Additional images: Rolling Out

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Molly Carter
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Molly is a freelance writer who talks about everything and anything from addiction, to sex. to skinning a deer. You can find her at MollyCarterWriter.com, or Facebook.