Sometimes, it’s hard to determine the difference between lust and love, both feelings can be incredibly intense. They both make you feel like you’re truly alive and can change the way you view your world. However, one will only last for a short time, while the other can last a lifetime. If you’re unsure about where your relationship stands, here are a few signs it’s love, not just lust.

You’ll Go Out On Actual Dates

Flings revolve around physical needs, not emotional ones. On the contrary, when you’re in love, you won’t feel the need to have sex each and every time you see each other. You’ll be busy going out to movies, museums, and music festivals because you’ll want your partner to be by your side during every exciting event in your life.

You’ll Like Their Flaws


When you love someone, the fact they bite their nails or pull out their eyelashes won’t be a deal breaker. You care about them way too much to end your relationship over something silly. In fact, you think their flaws are kind of cute, because it’s what makes them unique.

You’ll Meet Their Family

If you have a summer fling with a stranger, you aren’t going to introduce them to your parents. If you do, they’ll ask you tons of questions you don’t want to answer. Besides, what’s the point of letting your parents meet someone that will be out of your life in a few months? If you and your partner are planning dinners out with family, things must be serious between you two.

You’ll Enjoy Cuddling Without Sex

If you’re attracted to your partner’s body, but not to their mind or personality, then you’re not going to be happy when you cuddle in bed. You’d rather be doing something else. However, when you love someone, you won’t mind the quiet moments. You’ll realize intimacy isn’t all about sex. It’s about being close to someone spiritually, as well.

You’ll Constantly Brag To Your Friends

We all know how annoying it can be to hear constant updates about your friends’ relationships. However, when you find the right person for you, you won’t care about annoying your pals, because you have way too many nice things to say about your partner. Your life pretty much revolves around them, so there’s nothing else to talk about anyway.

You’ll Plan Your Future Together

How far into the future do you and your partner make plans? If you discuss events that are further than a month away, then you’re no longer part of a fling. If you’re already planning the location of your wedding or where you want to fly to for your honeymoon, then you’re probably in love.

You’ll Always Be Happy

When you find someone sexy to sleep with, you’ll be happy when you’re in bed together. But when you find someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with, you’ll be happy constantly. Even when you have a rough day at work, you’ll still be glowing, because your mind will occasionally drift to thoughts of your partner. Nothing makes you happier!

It can be difficult to distinguish between love and lust. Take some time and reflect. Maybe your current situation needs some tweaking to get you into the love boat rather than just in the love shack.


 Are you head over heels in love? Or have you just jumped into the lust bag?




Holly Riordan
Holly Riordan
Holly is an aspiring sci-fi writer who currently writes lifestyle articles for All Women Stalk and News Cult. She's a fan of comedy movies, ridiculous puns, and is the owner of a pup named Ferris (last name Bueller).